Books on Grieving for Children
At a budget hearing before the Boston City Council earlier this month, BPL president Amy Ryan told the councilors that the library purchased more than 2,000 books on coping with anxiety, grieving and loss after the Marathon bombings. In addition, even though the main library at Copley Square was forced to close for a week due to its close proximity to the bombing site, all the 25 branches were open the next day. "They were crowded," reported Ryan. "People were busy checking in with one another. Libraries are community spaces." According to Catherine Willis, Chief of Technical and Digital Services at the BPL, a total of 2,410 books were ordered on the subject of loss and anxiety. The cost for the books would have been more than $30,000 but the vendor gave the BPL a 'sizeable' discount to bring the final amount down to around $15,000. The books have begun to arrive at libraries throughout the system, including the South End Library.
South End Library's children's librarian Margaret Gardner collected several links for library patrons, including:
1. Tips for parents and teachers on how to deal with children's fear of war and terrorism from the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)
2. Talking to children about violence, also by NASP
3. Talking with kids about news, sponsored by PBS Parents
4. Times of Grief and Sadness, a list of 19 books for children from the BPL web site's Boston PL Kids Lists.
Gardner told FOSEL that kids and teens who have been at the South End branch since the bombings have expressed themselves through art, which she plans to continue to do. Two teens created "the dove of peace" in the front window facing Tremont Street the first week after the bombing, and another teen artist made the two doves of peace by the circulation counter, with hand prints and words from younger children.
Below is the full list of the BPL's books that are, or will soon be arriving at a library near you, and the number of copies available.
ADULT:
Aikman, Becky. Saturday night widows : the adventures of six friends remaking their lives
Albano, Anne Marie. You and your anxious child : free your child from fears and worries and create a joyful family life
Amend, Allison. A nearly perfect copy : a novel
Askew, Rilla. Kind of kin
Backhaus, Jeff. Hikikomori and the rental sister : a novel
Bacon, Armen. Griefland : an intimate portrait of love, loss, and unlikely friendship
Bateman, Tracey Victoria. The widow of Saunders Creek : a novel
Baudrillard, Jean The Spirit of Terrorism : And Other Essays
Beattie, Melody. The grief club : the secret to getting through all kinds of change
Bedford, Lisa. Survival mom : how to prepare your family for everyday disasters and worst-case scenarios
Berger, Susan A. The five ways we grieve : finding your personal path to healing after the loss of a loved one
Bessette, Alicia. A pinch of love
Bien, Thomas. The Buddha's Way of Happiness : healing sorrow, transforming negative emotion & finding well-being in the present moment
Blaustein, Margaret. Treating traumatic stress in children and adolescents : how to foster resilience through attachment, self-regulation, and competency
Brach, Tara. True refuge : finding peace and freedom in your own awakened heart
Brantley, Jeffrey. Calming your anxious mind : how mindfulness & compassion can free you from anxiety, fear, & panic
Brown, Erica, 1966- Happier endings : overcoming the fear of death
Bstan-Êdzin-rgya-mtsho, Dalai Lama XIV, 1935- The wisdom of compassion : stories of remarkable encounters and timeless insights
Burns, Donna M. When kids are grieving : addressing grief and loss in school
Chansky, Tamar Ellsas. Freeing your child from anxiety : powerful, practical strategies to overcome your child's fears, phobias, and worries
Chödrön, Pema. Comfortable with uncertainty : 108 teachings on cultivating fearlessness and compassion
Chödrön, Pema. The places that scare you : a guide to fearlessness in difficult times
Chödrön, Pema. When things fall apart : heart advice for difficult times
Chopra, Deepak. God : a story of Revelation
Cloyed, Deborah. The summer we came to life
Coetzee, J. M., 1940- Slow man
Cohen, Judith A. Treating trauma and traumatic grief in children and adolescents / A Clinician's Guide
Cohen, Leah Hager. The grief of others
Cooper, Gwen, 1971- Love saves the day : a novel
Cope, Pam. Jantsen's gift : a true story of grief, rescue, and grace
Dahlie, Michael. The best of youth : a novel
De Becker, Gavin. The gift of fear : survival signals that protect us from violence
De Feo, Ronald. Solo pass
Deits, Bob, 1933- Life after loss : a practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss
Deraniyagala, Sonali. Wave
Didion, Joan. The year of magical thinking
Dreher, Rod. The little way of Ruthie Leming : a Southern girl, a small town, and the secret of a good life
Dunn, Bill. Through a season of grief : devotions for your journey from mourning to joy
Ellmann, Lucy, 1956- Mimi : a novel
Emerson, David, 1969- Overcoming trauma through yoga : reclaiming your body
Ericsson, Stephanie, 1953- Companion through the darkness : inner dialogues on grief
Evans, Richard Paul. The road to grace
Frankl, Viktor E. (Viktor Emil), 1905-1997. Man's search for meaning
Frazier, Ian. The cursing mommy's book of days
Friedman, Russell. Moving beyond loss : real answers to real questions from real people
Gaiman, Neil. Fragile things : short fictions and wonders
Gewirtz, Matthew D. The gift of grief : finding peace, transformation, and renewed life after great sorrow
Gil, Eliana Working with children to heal interpersonal trauma : the power of play
Gilbert, Kellie Coates. Mother of Pearl
Goldman, Linda, 1946- Great answers to difficult questions about death : what children need to know
Gonzales, Laurence, 1947- Surviving survival : the art and science of resilience
Gordon, Terry A. No storm lasts forever : transforming suffering into insight
Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the dark emotions : the wisdom of grief, fear, and despair
Greenwood, T. (Tammy) The hungry season
Guthrie, Nancy O love that will not let me go : facing death with courageous confidence in God
Hall, Louisa, 1982- The carriage house : a novel
Hance, Jackie. I'll see you again : a memoir
Henkin, Joshua. The world without you
Hickman, Martha Whitmore, 1925- Healing after loss : daily meditations for working through grief
Higgins, Lisa Verge. The proper care and maintenance of friendship
Hinton, J. Lynne. Welcome back to Pie Town
Hodges, Samuel J Grieving with hope : finding comfort as you journey through loss
Holland, Debra. The essential guide to grief and grieving
Hunter, John, 1954- author. World peace and other 4th-grade achievements
Isaacs, Florence. My deepest sympathies : meaningful sentiments for condolence notes, plus a guide to eulogies
Jacobson, Don When God makes lemonade : true stories that amaze and encourage
James, John W. The grief recovery handbook : the action program for moving beyond death, divorce, and other losses including health career, and faith
James, John W. When children grieve : for adults to help children deal with death, divorce, pet loss, moving, and other losses
Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever you go, there you are : mindfulness meditation in everyday life
Kimball, Michael, 1967- Big Ray : a novel
King, Claire, 1980- The Night Rainbow
Kinkade, Thomas, 1958-2012. A wandering heart
Klein, Daniel M. Nothing serious : a novel
Kolf, June Cerza. When will I stop hurting? : dealing with a recent death
Kornfield, Jack The Art Of Forgiveness, Lovingkindess, And Peace
Krueger, William Kent. Ordinary grace : a novel
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. On death and dying : what the dying have to teach doctors, nurses, clergy, and their own families
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. On grief and grieving : finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss
Kultgen, Chad, 1976- The average American marriage : a novel
Kumar, Sameet M. Grieving mindfully : a compassionate and spiritual guide to coping with loss
Kushner, Harold S. The book of Job : when bad things happened to a good person
Kushner, Harold S. When bad things happen to good people
Lankford, Adam, 1979- The myth of martyrdom : what really drives suicide bombers, rampage shooters, and other self-destructive killers
Latiolais, Michelle. Widow : stories
Lavigne, Michael. The wanting
Lee, Ashton. The Cherry Cola Book Club
Lee, Deborah. The compassionate-mind guide to recovering from trauma and PTSD : using compassion-focused therapy to overcome flashbacks, shame, guilt, and fear
Lee, Linda Francis. Emily and Einstein / A Novel of Second Chances
Levine, Peter A. Trauma-proofing your kids : a parents' guide for instilling confidence, joy and resilience
Levine, Peter A. Waking the tiger : healing trauma : the innate capacity to transform overwhelming experiences
Lewis, C. S. (Clive Staples), 1898-1963. A grief observed
Malchiodi, Cathy A. The art therapy sourcebook
Marasco, Ron. About grief : insights, setbacks, grace notes, taboos
Martin, John D. I can't stop crying : it's so hard when someone you love dies
Martinez, J. Michael (James Michael) Terrorist attacks on American soil : from the Civil War era to the present
Matta, Christy. The stress response : how dialectical behavior therapy can free you from needless anxiety, worry, anger, & other symptoms of stress
Miller, Serena, 1950- Hidden mercies : a novel
Milliken, Maureen. The afterlife survey : a Rabbi, a CEO, a dog walker, and others on the universal question - what comes next?
NhaÌÌ‚t H?anh, ThiÌch Anger : wisdom for cooling the flames
NhaÌÌ‚t H?anh, ThiÌch. Fear : essential wisdom for getting through the storm
Nugent, Benjamin. Good kids : a novel
Odell, Jonathan, 1951- The healing : a novel
Orange, Cynthia. Shock waves : a practical guide to living with a loved one's PTSD
Paisley, Michelle Yoga for a Broken Heart : A Spiritual Guide to Healing from Break-Up, Loss, Death or Divorce
Peretti, Frank E. Illusion : a novel
Podrug, Junius. The disaster survival bible
Punnett, Ian, 1960- How to pray when you're pissed at God / Or Anyone Else for That Matter
Quick, Matthew, 1973- The silver linings playbook
Rando, Therese A. How to go on living when someone you love dies
Raney, Deborah. After all
Rapp, Emily. The still point of the turning world
Rathkey, Julia Wilcox. What children need when they grieve : the four essentials : routine, love, honesty, and security
Ratner, Austin. In the land of the living : a novel
Ritchie, Cinthia. Dolls behaving badly : a novel
Rogers, Michael Allen, 1949- What happens after I die?
Rothbaum, Barbara Olasov. Reclaiming your life from a traumatic experience : workbook
Rothschild, Babette. Trauma essentials : the go-to guide
Rupp, Joyce. My soul feels lean : poems of loss and restoration
Scheunemann, Frauke. Puppy love
Schonfeld, David J., 1959- The grieving student : a teacher's guide
Schrank, Ben. Love is a canoe
Schuster, Marc, 1973- The grievers
Simons, Paullina, 1963- Children of liberty
Smith, Haywood, 1949- Out of warranty
Smolinski, Jill. Objects of my affection
Sorensen, Julia. Overcoming loss : activities and stories to help transform children's grief and loss
Spencer, Elizabeth DuPont, 1966- The anxiety cure for kids : a guide for parents
Spencer, Katherine, 1955- The Way Home : Thomas Kinkade's Angel Island
Stahl, Bob. Calming the rush of panic : a mindfulness-based stress reduction guide to freeing yourself from panic attacks & living a vital life
Stavlund, Mike. A force of will : the reshaping of faith in a year of grief
Stearns, Ann Kaiser. Living through personal crisis
Stern, Robin. Project rebirth : survival and the strength of the human spirit from 9/11 survivors
Stewart, Carla. Broken wings : a novel
Stothard, Anna. The pink hotel
Sussman, Ellen, 1954- The Paradise Guest House : a novel
Tappouni, Therese Amrhein The Gifts of Grief : Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss
Thoene, Bodie, 1951- When Jesus wept
Tipping, Colin C Radical forgiveness : a revolutionary five-stage process to : heal relationships, let go of anger and blame, find peace in any situation
Tirch, Dennis D., 1968- The compassionate-mind guide to overcoming anxiety : using compassion-focused therapy to calm worry, panic, and fear
Trout, Nick. The patron saint of lost dogs
Welshons, John E. Awakening from grief : finding the way back to joy
West, Spencer, 1981- Standing tall : my journey
Westberg, Granger E Good Grief
Westfall, John. Getting past what you'll never get over : help for dealing with life's hurts
Whitson, Stephanie Grace. The message on the quilt
Wilde, Samantha. I'll take what she has : a novel
Wilder, Thornton, 1897-1975. The bridge of San Luis Rey
Williams, Mark. Mindfulness : an eight-week plan for finding peace in a frantic world
Williams, Mary Beth. The PTSD workbook / Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms
Wiseman, John "Lofty" SAS Urban Survival Handbook : How to Protect Yourself Against Terrorism, Natural Disasters, Fires, Home Invasions, and Everyday Health and Safety Hazards
Wolf, Elaine. Danny's mom : a novel
Wolfelt, Alan D. The Mourner's Book of Faith : 30 Days of Enlightenment
Wolfelt, Alan D., Ph.D. The Mourner's Book of Courage : 30 Days of Encouragemen
Wolfelt, Alan. Healing your grieving heart : 100 practical ideas
Wolfelt, Alan. The wilderness of grief : finding your way
Wong, David, 1975 Jan. 10- This book is full of spiders : seriously, dude, don't touch it
Yancey, Philip Where Is God When It Hurts?
Yancey, Philip. Disappointment with God : three questions no one asks aloud
Yang, Jeffrey Time of grief : mourning poems
Chicken soup for the soul : grieving and recovery : 101 inspirational and comforting stories about surviving the loss of a loved one
Life after trauma : a workbook for healing
Poems of mourning
Alcorn, Randy C. Heaven for kids
CHILD/TEEN
Aliki Feelings
Annunziata, Jane Sometimes I'm scared
Applegate, Katherine. The one and only Ivan
Arnold, Elana K. Sacred
Bergren, Lisa Tawn. God gave us heaven
Blos, Joan W. A gathering of days : a novel
Bodeen, S. A. (Stephanie A.), 1965- The raft
Brody, Jessica. Unremembered
Brown, Laurene Krasny. When dinosaurs die : a guide to understanding deat
Bunting, Eve, 1928- Rudi's pond
Burpo, Todd. Heaven is for real for kids
Buscaglia, Leo F. The fall of Freddie the leaf : a story of life for all ages
Cassidy, Sara. Windfall
Coker, Rachel. Interrupted : a life beyond words
Cook, Julia Grief is Like a Snowflake
Cormier, Robert. After the first death
Crist, James J. What to do when you're scared & worried : a guide for kids
Crowe, Carole. Waiting for dolphins
Emberley, Ed. Glad monster, sad monster : a book about feelings
Eubanks, Sonja Death and dying
Fitzgerald, Helen. The grieving teen : a guide for teenagers and their friends
Fritts, Mary Bahr, 1946- If Nathan were here
Geithner, Carole. If only
Goldman, Linda, 1946- Children also grieve : talking about death and healing
Gootman, Marilyn E., 1944- When a friend dies : a book for teens about grieving & healing
Graff, Lisa (Lisa Colleen), 1981- Umbrella summer
Guanci, Anne Marie. David and the worry beast : helping children cope with anxiety
Hainsworth, Emily. Through to you
Hanson, Warren. The next place
Heegaard, Marge When Someone Very Special Dies : Children Can Learn to Cope With Grief
Heegaard, Marge When Something Terrible Happens : Children Learn to Cope With Grief
Holmes, Margaret M., 1944 A terrible thing happened
Huebner, Dawn. What to do when you worry too much : a kid's guide to overcoming anxiety
Kaplow, Julie B., 1974- Samantha Jane's missing smile : a story about coping with the loss of a parent
Klise, Kate. Little Rabbit and the Night Mare
LaFleur, Suzanne M. Love, Aubrey
Laybourne, Emmy. Monument 14
Lewis, Beverly, 1949- What is God like?
Lewis, Stewart. You have seven messages
Loewen, Nancy, 1964- Saying good-bye to Uncle Joe : what to expect when someone you love dies
Loth, Sebastian. Remembering Crystal
Lowry, Lois. A summer to die
Martin, Ann M., 1955- Welcome to Camden Falls
Mayfield, Sue. Living with bereavement
Meiners, Cheri J., 1957- When I feel afraid
Mellonie, Bryan. Lifetimes : the beautiful way to explain death to children
Mills, Joyce C., 1944- Gentle Willow : a story for children about dying
Myers, Edward, 1950- Teens, loss, and grief : the ultimate teen guide
O'Brien, Anne Sibley. A path of stars
Palmer, Pat, 1928- I wish I could hold your hand-- : a child's guide to grief and loss
Payne, Lauren Murphy, 1956- Just because I am : a child's book of affirmation
Penn, Audrey, 1947- The kissing hand
Penn, Audrey, 1947- Chester Raccoon and the acorn full of memories
Pennypacker, Sara, 1951- Stuart goes to school
Posesorski, Sherie. Shadow boxing
Rock, Lois, 1953- When good-bye is forever
Romain, Trevor. What on earth do you do when someone dies?
Romain, Trevor. Stress can really get on your nerves!
Rosen, Michael, 1946- Michael Rosen's sad book
Seuss, Dr. My many colored days
Shaw, Susan, 1951- One of the survivors
Spelman, Cornelia. When I miss you
Tangvald, Christine Harder, 1941- Someone I love died
Vail, Rachel. Sometimes I'm Bombaloo
Varley, Susan. Badger's parting gifts
Verdick, Elizabeth. How to take the grrrr out of anger
Vigna, Judith. Saying goodbye to Daddy
Violi, Jen. Putting makeup on dead people
Wagenbach, Debbie. The grouchies
Wild, Margaret, 1948- Harry & Hopper
Wilhelm, Hans, 1945- I'll always love you
Winsch, Jane Loretta. After the funeral
Wolfelt, Alan. Healing your grieving heart for teens : 100 practical ideas
Wolff, Ferida, 1946- Is a worry worrying you?